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"I've been involved in transformational personal growth work since 1991 and this Inner Empathy work kicked my butt! Not only was I able to reveal some long-term patterns and behaviors that had previously eluded discovery, I distinguished a pattern in my relationships that had been running my life for many years". —Kim Wright J.D.

Nonviolent Communication Honesty: A Different Kind of Honesty
When: Saturday, August 14th
Time: 9:00 am to 4:00 pm (with a lunch break)
Location: 150 E. Chestnut, Asheville

Hello Folks,

I want you to think about something important to you you've been wanting to tell someone but haven't. When you think about expressing yourself honestly to this person, do you feel anxious because you're afraid of the response you will get from the other person? Maybe you're afraid you will hurt the other's feelings and alienate him/her? Or perhaps, you fear the other person getting angry and verbally attacking you? If so, we usually simply choose to refrain from expressing ourselves honestly and we live with the circumstance of not fulfilling what is important to us. When we choose not to express ourselves, we limit our lives in so many ways and...that's no way to live!

Expressing ourselves honestly and delicately is an art form that can be learned.

Often times, I hear people think they are expressing their honesty to others when all they are really doing is critically judging the other person. Instead of expressing their own feelings and desires, they express how wrong the other person is, or they try to get the other person to accept their label, analysis or diagnosis (selfish, codependent, passive/aggressive, etc.). And then they wonder why the other person gets upset. I don't know about you, but hearing judgments and labels directed at me doesn't inspire me to want hear someone deeply. I would guess, whatever concerns the person expressing "honesty" in this way had is not heard and lost on the ears of the receiver. The net result is fulfillment of what is important in life does not happen.

In this workshop you will learn a way to express what is true and important to you in a way others can hear and be truly inspire to contribute to your life! For me, true empowerment is when we can connect with our feelings and needs/wants/values and express them to others in connecting, compassionate ways.

Anymore, I'm convinced that it takes a village to raise our consciousness. So in that spirit, you are invited to learn and practice expressing yourself honestly using nonviolent communication. You'll learn:
typical ways we all respond to others that block compassion and connect with how you might do this unconsciously or out of habit.
to distinguish between a pure observation from an observation loaded with evaluations. This means you can tell people exactly what was upsetting you without making judgments. Judgments tend to cause disconnection and defensiveness and a breakdown in communication.
to differentiate between feelings, thoughts and interpretations and build your feeling vocabulary so you can connect with what you are feeling and what the other person is feeling.
to look deeper and connect with your own needs/wants/values and the other person’s. A need-based connection gives both a greater chance of getting them met in a mutually satisfying way.
to make requests of the other that are specific, connecting and compassionate.

In addition, we will practice with real-time challenges that anyone wants to bring to the group. We will have opportunities to do simulations or role plays to refine our skills. Come get immersed in a day-long of compassionate learning!

Cost: $99.00

I will be limiting the size of the group to keep it intimate, so sign up now to make sure you get in.

To Register

Any questions, please feel free to call.

Warmly,

Jerry